Meryl Streep at the Golden Globes

 I sat at work, at 5:30 in the morning, and saw my sister had shared this video. As I watched it, I just began to become more and more enraged.

Money or not, that should not dictate our character.

There is a double standard, not only from a political standpoint, but also gender. It is okay for Kanye to run his mouth in public in support of a political leader, and nobody bats an eye. Yet when a well respected woman states her opinion the entire world goes freaking out.

Yes, Meryl Streep may have said that she was a normal person, but what is “normal”?

I think what she meant, is even though she has money and is well off, she is not a xenophobic, homophobic, misogynist pig. Her money, worth, fame, is something she worked for, and she uses it in a productive way, much like Angelina Jolie. She doesn’t let it dictate her behavior or morals.

Not to mention the white privilege this reporter is showing. A blonde, attractive, white woman, running her mouth with no consequences. That, sister, is white, thin privilege.

This was not one of Kanye’s concerts, that you had to pay for in order to listen to his political support. This was an award ceremony, if you will, of which Meryl Streep had been awarded an honor, and took her time to make a speech using her opinions! If this had been a middle aged white male supporting Trump. Nobody would have said Shit.

Millennials and Adulthood

I think one of the most infuriating things about being a “Millennial” is the fact that the generation before us doesn’t seem to take us seriously.

Hearing comments from the Baby Boomers and Generation X like, “Welcome to Adulthood” “Adulthood isn’t all it has cracked up to be, has it?”, or the ever sarcastic, unwanted invitation of, “Welcome to the real world”. As if our struggles through finals week, in college was all just a bad hallucinogen trip.

We are put into a category of “entitled”, “lazy”, “selfish”, the list goes on and on, and yet, seldom do we fit this tight narrow minded view of ourselves. With these confounded credit cards, and the debt we had dug our way into trying to afford an education.

Not to mention the technology we are so attached to, neglecting the fact that we may, in fact, be checking work email, or comforting a friend whose parents don’t understand their mental illness.

It isn’t that we are failing expectations of past generations, or that we are somehow unsuited to grow into adulthood without past generations’ supervision, it is that we are different.

Our goal is no longer to be married with kids by the time we are 20. It isn’t that we don’t want a good house, car or job, but it has become exponentially more difficult. Healthcare prices, cars, education, housing, everything has increased in price. As Millennials, it is our decision to choose what necessities we actually “need”, and what gets cut off the list. Some continue to live with their parents, some decide to rely on other modes of transportation, we try and stay on our parents’ insurance for as long as possible.

We sit and do the math, living paycheck to paycheck, wondering what should be paid first and what can wait a little while longer. The decisions from past generations impacted where Millennials are today, but they don’t want to admit that. The fact that prices didn’t change overnight, and the adults that were supposed to be looking out for future generations didn’t screw us over….well guess what, you did.

I feel to be one of the few, one of the blessed. I graduated college on a scholarship. Got a full time job, with benefits, right out of college in the field I studied for. My apartment is small, drafty and expensive, but it has hot water, carpet, and everything else I could want. I am able to see my therapist every week, and it not costing me an arm and a leg.

This too, did not happen overnight. Baby Boomers and Gen X, you don’t get to take credit for my accomplishments, when you are the reason I had to work so hard to overcome it. I live paycheck to paycheck, I also work ~100 hours every two weeks, so it is not for a lack of trying. It is that no matter how hard I try, I can’t get ahead.

So next time you call us lazy, selfish, and entitled, I want you to look around. If you are at work, I bet there is a Millennial close by trying to get ahead. If you are at the coffee shop, I bet the barista behind the counter is a Millennial, trying to pay her rent, or car, while going to school.

 

Brock Turner, Trump, Hilary, Obama, and the Blame Game

It isn’t so much a matter of loving one candidate and hating the other.

It isn’t hating someone who has different beliefs than you.

What it is, is white privilege, double standards, and blaming others.

 

If Obama had half of the accusations that Trump had against him, Obama would have not been allowed to pursue the presidency.

If a black man has numerous women accusing him of sexual assault he would have been arrested.

If a black man had children from various women he would be a pimp.

It is the fact that Brock Turner got a slap on the wrist, Trump became president, and blacks are fearing for their life.

 

At the same time it is our job to take these results and do something productive. If you do not agree with what is going on, change it for the better. The way you handle a situation has a huge influence on the outcome. Burning an American flag, violently protesting, and hurting others isn’t making Trump look bad, or Hilary look good. It is making the individual look like a close minded fool.

The students who assaulted and harassed a female, or claimed they could “grab her by the pussy”, because our president-elect seems to advocate for that, is ridiculous. You are responsible for your actions. You cannot blame someone else for how you are acting.

We are not stuck in our terrible twos, we cannot blame a person we have never met on our behaviors, but nor do we have to condone his sexist, racist, misogynist behavior neither.