Your body is really nothing more than a pair of shoes.
They start out spotless, like a blank canvas.
They carry you from place to place.
After a time they come out with scuffs, dirt and cuts.
The stories they would tell if only they could talk.
I will stop trying to beat an unbeatable system.
You cannot argue with science and biology, as much as you try.
Your body will not thrive on inadequate nutrition just because you want it to.
You feed things you care about, your pets, plants, etc.
This should include yourself as well.
I acknowledge there is no room for shame.
Shame says “I am bad”.
I will not beat myself up for being human.
I am human, and will embrace the imperfections that come with it.
There is no guilt for having to send for a search party,
Especially when it looks like motivation and hunger cues ran off again holding hands.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.
It takes strength to realize you cannot do this all on your own.
I will trust my OP team, when I feel like I can’t trust my own thoughts.
I will not believe everything I think.
Every body tells a story,
At times it may seem like a tragic love story, or even a fantasy that you only dream about happy endings.
Recovery Record showing up for the third time, asking the same question, “Are you going to eat today?”
The teeth marks on the back of my hand reading like braille, trying to remind me why I started.
Exercise is optional, eating is not.
I accept that exercising is not like a carpet.
Spot treatment does not work.
I acknowledge that my self-confidence should never be based on what I’ve eaten.
What I’ve eaten should never be determined on how I’ve exercised.
How I’ve exercised should be focused on body kindness and recovery.
If muscles are just the result of repeated heavy lifting, maybe I’m sore from figuring out where this self-hatred should fit.
Moving this self-hatred again, like I’m rearranging furniture.
Remembering that I don’t want it, but somehow feeling its necessity, as if it is my license to drive my own body.
Getting pulled over for something ED deems illegal, but showing my license as proof of, “don’t worry, I still feel entirely inadequate and inferior.”
I will realize that my body is mine, and I don’t owe anything to anyone. It may still feel like I owe something to others, but I will learn to not pay for the space I take up in apologies or miles.
If not now, then when?
The question was enough to fuel my morning drive to work.
Recovery has been filling my mind and thoughts, probably more than it should.
Life is going great, I have no more stress than the next person,
A good job an awesome dog
A warm apartment a running car supportive friends
Coffee benefits paid time off
The ability to run
Why does my recovery want to take a sudden stop?
I don’t think it was sudden, it never is, but the restricting became more and more, until my list of foods was as depleted as my ability to fight ED off.
I’ve begun seeing a nutritionist, after months and months of putting it off, not wanting to go, etc. I like her, she is a believer and advocate of HAES, believes in intuitive eating. Overall, I have enjoyed the experience.
Yet the battle in my head is still raging.
It isn’t as easy as the “talking back” that I hear others talk about so frequently. No, for me, it has to be factual.
Which kinda fueled the internal dialogue this morning.
On more than one occasion I have been in a room of people struggling with their Eating Disorders, whether it be in treatment, support groups, wherever.
I look around, (and no, this is not going where you think it is going), and sometimes I am almost the oldest in the room, sometimes I am practically the youngest. When I am at the upper range of age I remember being their age, being so filled of denial, and so full of my eating disorder.
When there are people much older than me, I think of that is how I want my life to be at their age?
Should my life be focused on my body and eating disorder when:
I have kids
Start another job
My kids are grown up
My siblings get married
So, if not now, then when?
I also have “Trust the Process” tattooed on my wrist, to remind me of recovery.
I’m struggling with following my meal plan given to me, and it is so difficult to listen to my body when I am hungry and not feel the need to run first in order to “earn” the food that my body needs.
I am telling myself that I wouldn’t want someone to tell/question me on how to do my job, so then why am I questioning and fighting her so much?
She knows what she is talking about and is on my side, so why am I fighting her?
I need to focus on Trusting the Process.
I may not always enjoy it or find it easy, but I’ve been here before.
It is so difficult to compliment myself, brag on myself, or even see myself in a worthy light. My homework from my therapist this week was to “build a court case” against the lies I’ve been fed for so many years.
This is so hard for me, it is not like me to talk about what I have done or accomplished, because I just find that selfish and conceited.
My last post was about owning your story, but at the same time, owning it, doesn’t mean owning the lies you have been told your entire life. That is completely different. In an attempt to placate my therapist, I sat down the night before, and did the assignment she had given me last week. I didn’t put too much thought into it, because that would have been stressful and scary (which I know is kind of the point, to push me out of my comfort zone.)
Well, yesterday, I decided I wouldn’t wait last minute. I got home from my appointment, sat down and began to really think about the assignment and how difficult it would be. To not do it would be giving into the lies, rather than fighting them, but to do the homework meant dealing with the lies and trying to combat them with bragging on myself.
So, as I sat there, staring at the paper, it really hit me that this assignment was going to suck.
I began to think of my kids when I worked at a school, and one girl in particular who came to my mind and heart. I missed her, she had a very difficult home life, was hands down, one of my favorites, a heart of gold, and sassy as all get out (A girl after her own teacher’s heart).
So I started the assignment with, “What Would I Tell Alisha?”
- You have been through so much, and are so strong.
- Stay loud and loving.
- Be there for your brother, you guys will be close.
- You can’t control your parents.
- None of that was your fault.
- You are so loved.
- It is ok to ask for a hug.
- Be honest.
This is the girl, who was one of the smallest in her grade, yet, with a older brother, she would be out on the basketball court showing all the guys how to shoot. She was loud, sassy, played like one of the guys, but has a heart of gold.
Every day she would come running down the hallway, yelling my name and run into my arms. I was one of the select few who she came to for hugs and compassion, she didn’t want to lead on that she too, was tough, but needed love.
The day she came to school with stitches above her eye and scraped up, my heart sunk. The more I found out about her home life, the more I wanted to pick her up and take her home with me. No wonder she was tough and snarky, but I loved her just the same.
Reading the list that I would tell one of my students, but at the same time, me, not wanting or asking for help.
First, I wanted to apologize.
The days of class I skipped.
The days I couldn’t pay attention.
Or, the days when I would skip your class, and you would catch me running around campus walking back to your office.
It wasn’t that I didn’t care, it was that I was just more consumed with burning calories and making my Eating Disorder happy that I didn’t want to sit in class.
I didn’t want you to take my struggle as apathy or anything like that, and for the professors that did know about my struggle, I’m thankful for all that you did.
It wasn’t so much that I didn’t want to go to class, I physically didn’t have the energy to be there. I was freezing, exhausted, and all I wanted to do was go out and run this anxiety off. Running was more important to me than school, studying, or any sort of life.
Classmates would comment on how athletic I am, and how impressed they were at the distances I was running and how often I went to the gym. (Little did they know I had eaten an apple in maybe two days, and the violent shakes were from the Hydroxycut, not the coffee like I told people.) They didn’t see the girl who laid in her bed crying because of her electrolytes and her legs were locked up again, or the girl who ran to the toilet at 2 am because I had taken the laxatives too early and was up in the middle of the night.
College just seems like one big blur to me. Life was a half-hearted perfunctory routine of get up, run, go to class, run, go to work, maybe go to the gym, and start all over again.
Recently, I had the opportunity to catch up with one of my professors. I had her class during the semester that I left for treatment. We sat outside, laughed and caught up on all that we had missed. She told me that I looked happy and she was so proud of me. That, was what I needed to hear. That I didn’t disappoint her, or had somehow failed at being a “normal” college student.
She went on to say that she talks about me frequently, how I never asked for special treatment, and did continue to show up and do well in her class. The only thing I ever asked was if I could take my final early, (I was admitted on finals week).
I was honest and told her that while I was in her class I was consuming more diet pills and laxatives than actual food, she shook her head in a concerning way.
The most difficult was a male professor, only because my senior research also included a food log, which I was sure would lead to me failing my senior research if I didn’t have any data to actually document. He was very understanding, and I missed half of the following semester since I was still in treatment. Returning in March to his Biostatistics class, he was shocked and surprised to see me walk in the door. I had three tests to make up, multiple practicals, and I was determined. He was willing to work with me and said I could take an incomplete and finish the semester when I was feeling better. I told him I was supposed to graduate this semester, and I wanted to catch up.
I did, I finished school on time and graduated on time, missing half of a semester of Biostatistics, Virology, and Biochemistry.
I am very thankful to have the support I did through my academic career. Both of those professors actually wrote me letters of recommendation. They believed in me, even when I didn’t think I could.
When you look back on life, what do you want to remember?
Do you want your life to be a flood of memories, experiences and people?
Is it a timeline of accomplishments/children/or jobs?
What about a timeline of all the programs you have been in?
Thinking back and remembering months at this facility, or when you were in that other program.
Is that what you want your life to be? Just a strung together list of the places you went for treatment?
I started IOP at Hershey. It was great for dinner accountability, but I am also thankful that I think something clicked.
Sitting in a room with various people, with different backgrounds, different ages, we shared one common thing, that had us all here for one reason. We, at one point or another, were probably dragged into treatment by the ball and chain that was around our neck, being led into the unfamiliar place by the havoc ED had on our lives.
We went around the room and I listened as people shared their goals.
“Finish school.” “Get a job.” “Move.”
Then it came to me. I wasn’t sure what to say. Something in me clicked. It had occurred to me before, but never like this. I had finished school, I had just started an awesome career as biochemist, and moved about ten hours away. I felt like this might just be repeat. I needed something bigger, that is not to say these people’s goals were simple, and unimportant, not at all! I had accomplished their goals (which at one time were mine), but now what? I had moved ten hours to what? Go back into program?
I cannot have a successful life, or a life at all, while I am immersed in my eating disorder.
It is very disheartening though that there are many people in my life who don’t think I can do this on my own. I have flushed the Hydroxycut, cut down on purging immensely, and am really trying. To hear others say I need to go back to Hershey is discouraging. The hospital food itself is enough to send me into panic mode, when I could be eating stuff I actually enjoy.
That’s about it for now. I have a latte waiting for me.
I have debated writing something like this for a long time.
- Couldn’t quite get my thoughts together.
- Thought it might be kinda pathetic.
- Might think I’m weak.
- Or didn’t have the time.
Whichever option you choose to pick.
-Do you ever feel like a glorified babysitter?
-A ring leader at a circus?
I can see it now, standing in the middle of a flaming clusterfuck, head spinning a thousand miles an hour. Holding a flaming ring you are expected to jump through. Being torn in a thousand different ways.
The dietitian needs you.
Sally is refusing to eat. Jill just threw up.
The director (what is her actual title anyway??) needs to see you.
Phone is ringing.
Sue needs to talk to you.
Let’s reminisce for a second, because there was (more specifically) all of the hell I put you through.
Remember the time(s):
-You stood up to my mom for me?
-Sat on the kitchen floor to therapize me?
-The multiple times I threw up.
-When I would go hide on top of the shed, or on my perch.
-When I was gone for like an hour on my run.
-The time you thought I just left, because I missed snack and was on my perch.
-The night I called you crying over pizza.
-My self harm issues.
-Come to Jesus meeting(s).
-My smart mouth.
That could be it’s own post.
-Having to take me to the hospital.
-Watching you cry.
-The night B and I snuck out and stole that flamingo.
-(Oh, btw, the crayon splatters in the downstairs bathroom, to the right of the mirror. That was me too. I was trying to be artsy fartsy….)
-All of my ungodly honesty.
-Let’s not forget my concealed.
Also, some of my journal excerpts:
“I hurried to the kitchen where I was told T was looking for me. “Oh Shit.” I thought.”
“Then came group with T. We talked about feelings and safe places, she seemed to focus in on me for a while. I avoided and deflected for as long as I could.”
“So, that’s about it. I had a melt down in T’s office about how everything is being taken away from me.”
“After yoga I was informed I had to call T before snack-shit! The phone rang and rang I was so nervous. She answered, my heart dropped, she said she heard I had a rough breakfast and refused an Ensure.”
“T asked me to come down off the roof, I tossed my journal and watched it fall, then climbed down. T handed me my journal and I followed her to her office.”
“I was up tossing and turning at 2:30. The conversation between T and I played over and over in my head. ‘If you aren’t ready for you, do it for your sister.’ ‘Crying would have been better than purging.’.”
“T began to cry. I began to get mad. ‘K goes to the hospital, she gets to stay. M refuses to eat, she gets to stay. C practically gives you the finger…. ‘You have made amazing strides and progress…’ ‘….not good enough!!’ I cut in between sobs.”
“The next thing I know, I’m eating my left over, clenching a frozen orange, and hearing the words: Talk, T and Consequences. Strung together in an anxiety provoking sentence.”
“T complimented me on what I did do right over pass. I began to cry and looked away. I admitted I went on a run, she had known something was up.”
“T is so freaking great, she works her ass off for us and is just such an amazing lady.”
“Shopping was just awful- some young vegan telling me what to do, then a brand new girl disrespecting T and talking down to her…Oh hell no!”
“Feeling guilty. Skipped dairy with lunch, didn’t add extra fruit since I ran. Skipped fat with snack. Came clean about the restriction, T made me drink an Ensure.”
“I felt so discouraged hearing T’s motherly tone come out when I said I went to the guy for 2 hours. ‘What part of you thought that was ok??’”
“T grabbed the letter from the back and began to read it silently. She rolled her eyes and I could tell she wasn’t exactly thrilled. T read the very last bit to me out loud and told me I didn’t need to read that shit. I bawled and bawled.”
“I cried a lot today. I went to T’s office to read the letter from mom. I called A too for support. I’m so thankful that T and A were there when I read it.”
“T hugged me and wouldn’t let go. I felt, well, loved and cared about. She whispered how she didn’t want me to live like this- I said me either.”
“I got told today I was being transferred to the hospital. I bawled and bawled. I got my phone, called A and went upstairs to pack. T tried to help, I didn’t want any help. She came back up and told me she would be the one to take me to the hospital, that was the only time I felt slightly relieved. I packed everything up, told the girls bye, cried with T in her office and headed out.”
“T just held me as I cried, she cried, she told me this was no way to live. After arriving to the hospital, T helped me get checked in and came with me to the unit. They took my b.p and weight. T was beside me the entire time, holding my hand. They took me to my room, T sat down with me and we both began to cry.
I’ve written you a note before, but this is different. I can never express enough everything you have done for me. With your humor, patience and intelligence, you are an amazing person.
I walked into Tap feeling worthless and like a complete failure from our kitchen talks, to you holding the flamingo and watching me cry.
As much as I hate being here, I still appreciate everything you have done. I look up to you and admire your strength, determination and love.
Having someone during this time that is practically my motherly figure and supports me, means the world to me.”
Anyways, these are just blips of how much of an influence you have had, not only in my recovery, but in my life.
You do so much for not just Tap in general, but for each and every woman who walks through that door. Even a year later, I have no idea why you took me under your wing, or what you saw in me, but I am forever grateful, that no matter how much I tried to push you away, you just weren’t having it.
I genuinely believe you are my biggest supporter and believe in me and what I can accomplish. Lovingly pushing me to try neurofeedback, and our amazing breakfast outtings. I admire and respect you so much and all that you do. I also know, whole heartedly, that I wouldn’t be where I am today without your love and support.
Monday was weigh in, new admits, and a lot of nothing.
Tuesday, Vanessa woke M and I up early for another weigh in. We were both freaking the hell out.
After Treatment team had their meeting M found out she was going home.
They had searched our rooms and M got caught water loading. I was pretty upset about it and miss her.
It is so weird to be the person here the longest. I miss B too, but guess I need to focus on me and getting better.
During T’s group yesterday I got slightly defensive and sassy. Another resident was arguing with T and talking shit about this place. T and everyone here have already done so much for me, to hear someone brand new come in and talk shit really pissed me off.
I told her we were going grocery shopping, everyone has to go, to calm down, etc. T thanked me for piping up.
So, anyway, today. We had yoga and I got super antsy. Yoga Kathy caught me trying to work out. I so badly want to run
We tried to make a grocery list, but it was a chaotic clusterfuck and I got stressed.
Got to carry the Sam’s stuff in through!
Was also put on anti-anxiety, just makes me feel tired.
Sometimes I wonder and get discouraged. Am I even making progress?
I woke up this morning, I had been dreaming about my kids. I got really melancholy, miss them so much, their hugs, their love, their smiles.
I’m slightly discouraged that people are “passing” me in recovery. I know it isn’t a race, but people that came after me are leaving before me.
The guilt of water loading is still killing me. I had a realization this morning, I miss M, but I’m glad she is gone. I think I miss the familiar faces and the thought of her. She breagged about how many cups of water she had before weigh in, what she hid or smuggled in. I got defensive for her, when she was hiding cups of vomit in her room.
I think I realized I am only cheating or hurting myself and my recovery.
Today is Saturday, I’m going on pass.
Yesterday, we had a group with T about feelings, emotions, etc. I tried so freaking hard to not cry. It was the hardest group yet, my mind went to New Years, how much I fucked up, all the memories, my home life and the voice of ED.
I looked at T as she lovingly drilled me with uncomfortable questions. Trying so hard not to cry.
I went to my room and just began to bawl.
T came in and saw. We talked for a bit about her group and how it helped, but was so hard.
Everyone left, I went outside and played with Chloe. It was so great to be outside laughing and playing with the dog.
This week has probably been one of the hardest.
I went to back to residential, but only to visit and say my goodbyes. I walked in the familiar door, where a bunch of unfamiliar faces greeted me in confusion and curiosity.
Standing right in the doorway, staring through the hall of the house, T came out into the hall.
Literally everything else faded.
I headed down the hall.
Straight into her arms.
T expressed a lot of concern for me moving, and desperately wanted me to take care of myself and eat.
I talked to K, and she was excited for me. I gave her a hard time, and a couple hugs as well.
It is so crazy to me that someone I started off wanting nothing to do with, let alone hugs from, has become my biggest supporter and practically a mom to me. I love her so much, and don’t think I can ever fully express my gratitude for everything she has done.
I have moved from NC to PA.
I knew the transition would be the hardest, but I wasn’t anticipating it to be this rough.
After packing everything up, and an excruciatingly long drive, I am now sitting in my apartment.
It is odd, and still nerve-wracking. I do feel some peace about the situation though.
I am having a very difficult time eating though.
I strongly believe that I am just worried, stressed and nervous, and am restricting to compensate.
It isn’t smart, but it is what I know.
The dog and I go on runs frequently, and I am restricting pretty badly.
I am also fairly certain that my veganism is another way to hide my orthorexic tendencies. It isn’t only about the animals, or just the environment, it also has a lot to do with the chemicals. I have a huge fear of the preservatives inside the food, what else is in the food, and gives me an excuse to avoid fear foods like lunch meat and cheese.
I start my job Monday in a biopharmaceutical lab.
I’m not where I was, but I’m not where I want to be.
Trust the Process!!
I threw up a mouthful of coffee and raspberries, the RC caught me leaving the bathroom.
I refused to drink an Ensure and after everyone left for their pass home, I headed to the group room for yoga, just me.
After yoga was snack, the RC informed me that I had to call T before snack- shit! The phone rang and rang and I was so nervous.
She answered, my heart dropped, she said she heard I had a rough breakfast, I said not really, and told my side. “I ate, went upstairs to change for yoga and the RC saw me come out of the bathroom.” “Well, what happened in the bathroom?” “Some raspberries came up.” “And you refused an Ensure?….” “I didn’t refuse, I just didn’t let her get that far.
T continued, I told her I didn’t think my stomach was handling the coffee well, so gave up coffee…
T also mentioned how we might have to sit down and revisit if this is the level of care for me. Of course that freaked me out….
I had breakfast, watched Water for Elephants, snack time, did a puzzle.
Showered, lunch time, took a nap, went outside and kicked around my soccer ball.
Painted my nails, snack time, watched Frozen, watched Muppets.
I hate having “special treatment” no dishes because I may involuntarily hurl in the sink, tally stairs so I’m not exercising. This not moving thing is killing me! ERGH!
I get so annoyed I’ve also been put on cleaning restriction too b/c I’m the only one who can manage to clean and take the damn trash out.
We got a new person today, she is 33 and just came from the hospital. I’m discouraged and conflicted. I still believe I’m not sick enough to be here. I want to go outside, run, feel the sun on my back, breeze in my face.
Am I too young to be here?
Am I too young for recovery?
Part of me wants to throw in the towel say fuck it, pack up and go home. Go back to treatment after I’ve hit rock bottom, when I’m actually sick.
T is probably so sick and tired of me. I hate feeling like a lost cause and I’m just waiting for her to say screw it about me as well and give up.
Honestly, I think I just want to pack and leave before I end up disappointing all of Tapestry.
Well, I fucked up, again. I’m not sure why I’m even here. I got so upset and stressed about snack and I threw up, and got caught.
I know in order to quit involuntarily puking, I definitely need to keep my fingers out of my throat.
What the Fuck is my problem?!?!
I don’t want to be here anymore, I want to go home, but I am so tired of throwing up.
While sitting outside on top of a shed T came out. She stood on the ground looking up at me and asked what I wanted to do, I told her, “cry”. “Well, that would have been better than purging.” I began to cry and told her what would make someone want to throw up cashews and cherries??!!
I told her I knew it was a bad idea, and how discouraged I am.
T asked me to come down off the roof, I tossed my journal and watched it fall, then climbed down.
T handed me my journal and I followed her to her office.
I was up tossing and turning at 2:30. The conversation between T and I played over and over again in my head.
“If you aren’t ready to recover for you, do it for your sister.”
“Crying would have been better than purging.”
My leash around here is just getting shorter and shorter, now on top of no running, no showers at night, sit down after every meal, no climbing the stairs, no coffee, but I don’t want all of this to be for nothing.
I was being artsy fartsy last night, after snack. The RC came in and saw my glass full of throw up on the table….
So, this morning was weigh in. I hid my Nalgene and Mason jar, full of water, in my room. So at 6:30, before the RC came in to wake us up, I sat on my bed and chugged the Mason jar. Sat with it, then started on the Nalgene.
I feel so conflicted about it. I don’t want my weight to go up, but it can’t stay the same, I hate being so stationary. Maybe if my weight goes up, I won’t have to sit after every meal, but I hate lying and being dishonest.
Dinner, well, I didn’t eat it. Unfortunately, I had an Ensure, but figured it was the safer bet.
T again mentioned that she wasn’t sure if I could stay. I feel so conflicted. I have had so much taken away and all of my Christmas break, I don’t want it to be for nothing. I’d go back home, run and starve.
When will I put my foot down and find that spark I need?
I almost came clean to T.
The guilt is too much.
She said there was a positive change in my weight.
After threatening to see if I would be able to stay and her saying, “Your weight is the only ace I have right now.”
What was I supposed to say?
“Oh, that’s great, I mean I only chugged an enormous amount of water this morning to water load.”
Yeah, that totally wouldn’t get me kicked out.
Around 12:30 this morning I got really hot and nauseous. I headed to the bathroom where I projectile vomited on my hand and the toilet. I woke up the RC to tell her, she got me some water, I swore up one way and down the other it was the bean burger I ate for dinner.
Everyone went grocery shopping after lunch today except me, because I thought I had a therapist appointment. She came and got me…then we headed to T’s office. I wasn’t exactly sure what was going on, a “come to Jesus” meeting perhaps?
They both sat down and faced me and asked why I thought they wanted to talk to me. Oh shit, I thought and a stomach sinking feeling came over me. “We are thinking about discharge.” Oh fuck, what?! I began to cry. They went on and explained they were trying to have me referred to UNC. I just bawled harder.
“I won’t go.” I thought, I can’t! I have school, it was hard enough to get my ass here. I was still crying when I explained I felt like a failure, and explained how I had gotten physically sick.
The two of them didn’t really sound like it was an option. I was stuck between getting on my knees and begging and throwing my hands up and saying fuck it as I walked out the door.
“You can always come back here after Chapel Hill.”
“I don’t want to ‘come back’. This isn’t a vacation, I don’t want to come back, ‘Oh hey guys, missed you all.’” I mocked between sobs.
They told me this wasn’t a failure, I just needed a higher level of care. That scares the shit out of me. I was still crying, T began to cry.
I just began to get mad.
“KW goes to the hospital, she gets to stay. M refuses to eat, she gets to stay. C practically gives you the finger…”
“You have made amazing strides and progress…..”
“…not good enough apparently.” I cut her off
T was still choking back tears when she looked me in the eyes and said,
“you don’t have to do this anymore, you don’t have to purge anymore.” I just looked at her and asked, “Why?”
T went outside to get the head honcho director, (can we call her Madame Shit Storm? I think that’s appropriate).
Madame Shit Storm and T came in, I was still bawling. They explained the medical benefits and capability UNC has that would be helpful to me if I was referred.
I admitted I got sick last night and that I’m still sruggling with the stairs but I’ve been honest. They mentioned I needed to be behavior free for so long, I was still crying when I explained that I would have gone 4 days if it wasn’t for physically getting sick.
Currently, I’m pissed at the world.
Saturday was family day, everyone came. Grandma brought fucking cookies! Dumb ass! The primary therapist said something to my grandma, she got mad and left.
I felt hurt and pissed at her. She wasn’t even invited by me, but she came anyway and is in such a state of denial.
My sister and I were curled up on the yoga room floor the whole time and I loved it. Then yelling Rudolph the Red nosed Reindeer while in the bathroom together. I struggled, didn’t finish dinner and had Ensure.
The next day Ridley came in, we had lunch, then wandered downtown. It was so cute and I loved all of the shops. That was super fun. We got back and I snuck outside for some soccer. I was juggling and kicking it around, then Anna came around the corner, she asked what I was doing, I told her I was being easy, but admitted I didn’t ask Ridley.
Anna wasn’t too keen because I had been “sneaky” before and she was worried about me being triggered. Few minutes later Ridley came outside to peak on me. Anyways I didn’t abuse soccer, yay!
Yesterday I thought I was going to be sneaky and play outside with some residents. Anna said I could get my soccer ball from my car, I was so thrilled. We got in trouble for running, so we were kicking the ball back and forth. Then I got cocky and went all goalie style. Diving andblocking shots, running, omg I loved it. My legs got all cut up, scraped and bloody- I loved it.
Then, I got a headache and got really dizzy. I struggled through snack, suffered nauseously through dinner. Then B and I went to talk to the RC. From diving so much I was so dizzy and B knew what it was. The RC had already seen my legs and probably knew I was being rough. I humbly admitted I was diving and being rough…and got reprimanded…and no more soccer…
I was so pissed at myself for trying to be sneaky, for fessing up, and for abusing soccer. I was finally given the ok and I cut off my nose to spite my face.
I cried during snack because I didn’t want to get kicked out and just feel like I can’t get my shit together.
So anyway, today. I woke up with plans to go to yoga, but the therapist came in the kitchen and wanted to meet today. I missed yoga but really opened up. Part of my breakfast also involuntarily came up and the RC saw, so I had to drink an Ensure during my appointment.
Cleaning was also taken from me, and I can’t do the dishes anymore and need to sit for 15 minutes after each meal. My body hates food, and just wants to get rid of it, like it has been doing for a long time.
I went to work, ate a Clif Bar, among many other delicious foodies, walked my dog, called people about trying to find a place to live since I am moving. I didn’t run today because I didn’t have time, plus it was raining.
Life is Good
Trust the Process.